Be Passionate (Week 6)

MandelaPassionate: having, compelled by, or ruled by intense emotion or strong feeling.

In the past two years, I have lost two friends, extraordinary women who were taken from us much sooner than expected. They embodied vitality, strength and a beauty so strong that it shined from deep within them for all to see. When I think of them and Nelson Mandela’s quote, I realize that with all that I have accomplished, I am still playing small and not taking advantage of the opportunities that are in front of me.

I think it is okay to be cautious; but to settle for a life that allows you to be less than your potential is not. Now I’m not advocating that tomorrow you quit your job and go save the world. But there is something – a dream that is deep within that should be explored. You know the one; it makes you smile every time you think of it. What would it take to pull that out of you? How would you celebrate that accomplishment?

So let’s make a list. I want to create a Passion List (because the term bucket list depresses me). Some of the things on my Passion List are in the works. For example, I enjoy art that advocates for a cause. So I have performed in the Vagina Monologues as part of domestic violence awareness. I am passionate about writing, so I have several projects that are underway that fulfills that passion. I am passionate about travel and I have a list of destinations that I want to visit in the US and abroad. Savannah, Hawaii, Greece, Italy, Scotland, Ireland, Spain and Australia top that list. Ironically, I was with a friend of mine today who recently scheduled a trip to Tokyo. I asked her how she settled on that destination and she said they had a really great deal so why not? I like that spirit.

I am passionate about programs and organizations that empower women and young girls and this year, I have put that passion into motion through my community service. Arizona Foundation for Women advocates for women and children in the area of safety, health and empowerment and I am proud to serve on the board where we work to ensure that She Counts.

There are so many things I could list but I think you get the idea.

One of my favorite songs is Tim McGraw’s “Live Like You Were Dying.” It is a great reminder that tomorrow is not promised and life moves much too fast to always be cautious; to always wait for tomorrow or the “perfect” time to try. It’s time to do the things that compel you, that move you, that you feel strongly about.

It’s time to live the life you are capable of living… and live like you are dying.

Be Passionate – about life!



Be Fair (Week 5-ish)

fair: free from bias or injustice; courteous, civil

This week’s BE is interesting for me to write, as it’s a topic that comes up in my various circles of girlfriends from time to time.

It has been said that I am quick to cut people off at the knees once we have experienced a major conflict. That’s not always the case (it can be, but not always). I have learned that people are in your life for a reason; and they can stay for season or a lifetime. Transition is good and sometimes it is necessary.

maya-angelou-quoteWhen people are no longer good for your life, it makes no sense to keep them in it thinking that they will change. As Maya Angelou said, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them.” You have to be the change agent.

But there are times when people are having a “moment,” a time in their life when their actions might not be a true reflection of how they feel but a result of the storm that they are in. It is in these times, that you must look at the situation through a different lens and give them some room and some support.

The challenge is to know the difference between toxic and troubled.

So BE FAIR! Be free from bias in your judgement and courteous and civil with your words. Know when to keep people close and when to let them go. Take people for who they are, accept them as they are and meet them where they are. Cut the toxic people out of your life and show compassion for those who are experiencing troubling times.

Strive to be fair in your judgement, your words and your actions and let compassion and civility prevail.